Men are often portrayed as sex-crazed maniacs who are always looking for their next bed (and when they can't find it, resorting to porn and masturbation). They are always excited and always aggressive. The most important thing is that they always cum and never fake an orgasm.
If this sounds unrealistic, that's because it is. “The generalization of male sexuality is deeply harmful for both men and their partners,” says sexologist Elena Tikhonova. We dispel the main myths.
Guys always want sex
Not only is this “every seven seconds” statistic incredibly difficult to measure, it also clearly appeals to a strange stereotype. “But there is no convincing evidence that men think about sex that often, or at least more often than women,” Elena says.
In fact, the study found that while men do think about sex, they also think about money, food, cars and gadgets, children, sleep, and, oddly enough, romance, as well as complexes and fears. In fact, some men don’t want sex at all.
Photo: Social networks If a guy is excited, he is ready for sex< /p> We are led to believe, whether through funny moments in pop culture or anecdotes, that a man's constant readiness for sex manifests itself physically. Anytime, anywhere. Does lack of erection equal lack of arousal? In fact, everything is much more complicated. “First, men constantly get erections in non-sexual situations – for example, morning erections are not actually the result of sexual dreams. Conversely, men may become aroused without achieving an erection – this can be due to a number of factors, including the need for more than just physical stimulation. In any case, it’s important to remember that sex doesn’t have to revolve around an erection,” Elena emphasizes. Good sex means the guy has an orgasm every time Wrong again: men can have orgasms without ejaculating, and that's a good thing. Both for the men themselves and for the women. “In fact, only 25% of women achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. They typically require clitoral stimulation, which usually occurs during foreplay, which means a woman can have a great sex experience even if the man hasn't ejaculated at all. Men shouldn’t get hung up on reaching the finish line for the sake of women,” says the sexologist. The longer the sex, the better Many people associate quick sex with laziness or lack of romance, but research shows that quick sex can be good for your health. Moreover, there are sex therapists who advise couples to include sex in their intimate lives. Photo: Social networks More is always better And again and again about size, why does it haunt everyone? Just because a man has a big penis doesn't mean his partner will enjoy sex. “Much more important is size compatibility between partners. For heterosexual couples, if the woman has a smaller vagina, a larger phallus can be painful. And let’s be honest, in any relationship, the ability to use a penis is much more important than its size,” reminds Elena. Guys like to dominate Of course, some delighted with this prospect, but certainly not everyone. Many men love it when women take the initiative. According to Elena, “there are few things sexier than a girl who knows what she wants, and there are many different ways to convey it to a guy. This doesn't mean you have to whip out whips and leather cuffs and boss them around (but you could if you both want it). It could be something as simple as pushing a man onto the bed and pinning his hands to his head while you're on top.” In general, not all men are the sex gurus that women may think they are, or that they are. they willingly talk about themselves. If we take this, and all other aspects of sex, seriously, we will all be better off.
