Dating, romance and sex are not only for young people, but what about intimacy and mature men? Can a partner at a certain age still please a woman? Do older men have the same interests and desires as they did when they were younger?
Cultural aspects of sex and aging
It may surprise young people, but older people can still enjoy a fulfilling and exciting sex life. In fact, older men (and women, for that matter!) are often more aware of their bodies and have a better idea of what might please their partner. And the confidence that comes with age can be very sexy.
“Aging comes with some inevitable changes. The joints may not work as well. Stamina may not be what it used to be. And libido usually decreases with age. But this does not mean that sex is no longer possible. According to one study, more than half of people aged 70 still have sex once a week. This is more than many young couples!” says sexologist Olga Vasilenko.
Unsplash Physical changes< /p> Sex for older men is a little different from sex for younger men. Physical changes mean the sensations may be less intense. Other changes are common. “More stimulation may be required to achieve an erection, and the erect penis may not be as hard. It may take longer to reach orgasm, less sperm may be released, and it may leak out rather than ejaculate. Finally, erectile dysfunction is also possible,” explains Olga. Not only sex For most people, the word “sex” always means sexual intercourse. However, for many older couples, sex is a much broader concept. As the body ages (and disability sets in, let's be realistic), sexual intercourse may become impossible. Arthritis and other diseases can make sexual intercourse uncomfortable or even impossible. “Older couples who cannot have sex or choose not to have sex have many other options. A simple touch and hug can help two people feel close. A healthy sex life can include experiencing pleasure in many ways: through words, kissing, erotic touching, oral sex and even sex toys,” says Olga. If you are younger and have a different sexual appetite , it’s better to think about whether you are ready for such scenarios. It's unlikely that your older partner will be happy if you put on an act in bed, right? Old dogs, new tricks Older men new to the marriage market or just big-time sex — perhaps recently divorced or widowed — may need to adjust to modern sexual styles. Having one partner for life can mean great sex for both of them. Unsplash “But it can also mean adopting habits that might not work for someone else. An unpleasant surprise may be that your favorite ways of touching, kissing, and even initiating sex do not produce a spark. Many older men have to relearn how to be with a new partner. Fortunately, the learning process can be very fun,” Olga is convinced. Dating older men requires careful attention to their sexual history. These days, women want to enjoy sex as much as men, and it may take some time for an older gentleman to get used to the idea. Sexual aggressiveness can turn off a gentleman who hasn't dated in decades. On the other hand, it can please a man whose wife was too modest… or who had a sensual and sexual marriage and misses it.
