An older man coupled with a young girl is perceived by society as completely normal: well, why so-and-so? Love for all ages and blah blah blah. But if a mature woman does this, arriving arm in arm with a young boyfriend, a formal circus with horses begins, although here, too, is there “love for all ages”? Even at stars, who seem to be able to do almost anything, it is customary to look askance in this way – and yet there are examples of strong marriages in which the woman is seriously older than the man. However, “people date, people fall in love”…
There is nothing wrong with dating a younger man. In fact, being a “cougar,” meaning dating a man who is at least eight years younger than you, is becoming increasingly popular.
“Although the term 'cougar' originally had a negative connotation, that is no longer the case (hallelujah!). After all, cougars are attractive and sexy women who are typically financially independent. A woman dating a young guy, as a rule, does not need to look for a man who will become the breadwinner, so this opens up a whole new circle of men for her,” explains sexologist Olga Vasilenko. Let's look at why this can be great, and for what reasons it can be so-so.
Photo: Social networks Younger body There’s nothing even to compare here – young Apollo with six-pack abs and powerful shoulders or a stooped peer with a bald spot and a beer belly. If many women, with age, begin to more diligently monitor their figure and nutrition, then men 35+ for some reason consider themselves irresistible in any form, therefore, in comparison with young people, they lose greatly. Increased Sex Drive If you have a high sex drive and are frustrated with men your age who won't (or can't) have sex as often or for as long as you'd like, you You will be more satisfied when dating a younger guy. “It's simple from a biological point of view: as men age, testosterone levels decline after peaking in adolescence. But for a woman, on the contrary, the sexual appetite flares up properly just after 35 years. And then, of course, a problem arises that needs to be solved somehow,” says Olga. More spontaneous and fun If you just want to do exciting and hot sex without blowing your mind and talking about high matters, then a young guy can become the ticket. Many women who have just gotten out of a long-term relationship just want to have fun. “Younger men, as a rule, are also not looking for serious commitment when dating an older woman. They offer spontaneity, variety and fun,” Olga is sure. Photo: Social Networks You can sculpt it Since you're older, you're probably more experienced. You can teach your young boyfriend some very interesting things. Or finally try something that you have long dreamed of under the covers and in the shower, but could not offer to your husband (for example, because he was suffocating). “Most likely, your sweet boy will be happy any sexual instructions you give him. And he'll probably be willing to try anything. The very awareness of this is incredibly exciting,” says Olga. Less baggage A person without a long-term relationship and a history of children will happily agree to any adventure, not just sexual. Heading to a neighboring city for the weekend to cuddle with a view of ancient fortresses? Easily. Spend the night kissing your ass off next to the runway? Easily. But a peer will most likely tell you that he needs to take his children to the zoo and to the dentist, and in general – he has gout and sciatica. “What to fuck with him about?” And this can be a serious problem. Remember how Sarah Jessica Parker's character woke up one morning in the house of her young lover and was horrified by the mess in his little room (and the lack of toilet paper in the toilet, because this cheerful dunce spent the last piece on a coffee filter)? And that would be half the trouble, to hell with them, with everyday issues. But after bed you also need to talk about something, and here next to you is a young and perky body without much of a brain in its skull. And what? That's all. Difficult questions about the future Young men may want to have children and a family someday, but you just stopped drinking valerian while clicking on a cool chat in the messenger and forgot, like a bad dream, parent-teacher meetings. And why do you need it, it’s all great again? “In this case, the relationship with the young man will most likely end someday. In order for a relationship to be successful, you need compatible life goals – and if they do not coincide at all, it is better, of course, not to injure either yourself or him,” Olga assures. And keep in mind that if the relationship becomes serious, even to the point of meeting his parents (who are a couple of years younger than you, for example), you will all probably feel a little awkward. And, most likely, you will not feel comfortable with his friends (at any level). speak to them in language?). In general, everything is complicated here. He is clearly lower socially If you're at the top of your game and he's just starting out, or if he doesn't have a career at all, he might feel awkward and like he's not much of a man. And that's a tough feeling, to be honest. Or, if he's okay with it, you might soon become his sugar mama — but you already have grown kids, so why do you need all that? Photo: Social networks Society does not take such relationships seriously Many They believe that dating a younger man is a sign of desperation and an attempt to jump on the last bandwagon. They may make snide comments or feel sorry for you loudly and zealously. No, you don't have to live with the very valuable opinions of others, but it's just a reality that you need to be prepared for. Your biological clock is ticking If you don't have children yet but want to have them (yes, at age 40 or even 45 it's still normal to want to do so!), dating a younger man may not be the best choice. “You may feel like the biological clock is ticking at an alarming rate, and he may feel like there is still plenty of time for children. Perhaps he is not even ready to start a family. If you get involved with such a guy when having children is your goal, you may miss your chance,” Olga warns.
