You are single and hot, don’t you care about a long relationship with the tedious question of who didn’t wash the frying pan again after cooking scrambled eggs and going to visit his mother on Saturdays? Well, it happens. A night of passion without commitment is a great way to brighten up loneliness without unnecessary complications and get sexual release. As long as you stick to a few basic rules
Be honest with yourself
One night of sex without commitment will only be interesting if you really want to have fun. “If you want to forget about a broken heart or get rid of feelings of loneliness, you might want to see a psychologist first, but one-time dating is also suitable if you know exactly what you want,” explains sexologist Elena Tikhonova. If you're wondering how you'd feel about him running away at dawn without saying goodbye…Are you sure you're ready? Think again.
Photo: Social Media Be Honest With Him It sounds unbelievable, but not all men are looking for just sex. Some of them (oddly enough!) want a relationship. So don’t think that because you met at a club at 1:50 a.m., he only wants a one-night stand. “If you’re sure you won’t want to exchange numbers the next day, tell him before you get in a taxi together,” Elena insists. Otherwise, it won’t be so nice, will it? Take care of safety (in every sense) Disappearing alone with a man you met in the evening is a risky business. The more you and your friends know about him and his friends, the better. Be sure to tell your friend or sister where you are going, and make sure you have your cell phone (fully charged) handy. “And don’t forget to take care of protection before you get to the bedroom – the pill is great, but a condom is absolutely necessary in this situation!” – Elena reminds. Be sober There is nothing better than alcohol vapor to turn dubious guys into almost handsome princes. “If you doubt the merits of your chosen one, exchange numbers with him and agree to meet another evening, when you can evaluate him in a sober state before going to bed,” suggests Elena. Photo: Social networks Come up with a reason to leave No matter how wonderful he may seem now, there is no telling how you will feel tomorrow morning (what if it turns out that he has a tendency to grunt funny or fart during sex?). Tell him before you get into the taxi that you need to get up early to meet a friend, for example. This way you can leave without hurting his feelings. Do not overstay your welcome “Even if you had a great time and wanted to spend the whole day with him, it's always better to leave sooner rather than later. If he liked you, he'll like you even more if you leave him wanting more,” says Elena. If he doesn't want to continue the relationship, this will save you the humiliation of being kicked out. Don't leave anything “accidentally” with him Before you leave your apartment or hotel, make sure you take all your belongings. There is nothing more humiliating than having to come back for something later. “Not least because he will probably think you did it on purpose. If he really likes you, he will call you later. Likewise, if he stays with you, make sure he doesn’t “accidentally” leave anything behind—or, worse, hide his stuff,” says Elena. Photo: Social networks How to continue a relationship If you're hooked during a night of passion and want to continue the relationship, you should proceed with caution. “If you talk to him while you're still in bed, he'll likely feel cornered. Instead, leave him your phone number and tell him you'd love to meet him for coffee sometime. A daytime date makes it clear that you're looking for more than just a one-time hookup. But be prepared for the fact that he will refuse – well, you agreed on the shore that this was just physical contact, right?” – reminds the sexologist. How to gently send him away The fun is over, and now you can’t wait to send him out of the house. But he doesn't want to leave. The best way to resolve the situation once and for all is to be honest. Make him a cup of tea, tell him you had a great time (okay, you don't have to be that honest) but you don't need a relationship right now – it's as simple as that. “It’s even better to meet on neutral territory, it’s both safer and easier for breaking up,” Elena concludes.
