It has never been easy for men to understand whether a woman is really experiencing incredible pleasure with them in bed or is just playing along with him. We talked with sexologist Irina Nim, who told us why you shouldn’t lie to a man in this matter.
“Everyone is responsible for their own orgasm”
As ours says expert, it is believed that it is the man who is responsible for the woman’s pleasure, although in fact orgasm is the concern of each of the partners. “Women cannot always explain to their partner how to properly treat their body, and therefore they expect the man to guess what caresses should be used with a particular woman,” explains Irina. In this case, the woman begins to imitate in order to quickly finish the unpleasant process, from which she does not receive pleasure.
Why imitation of orgasm is always bad
You hit a man's self-esteem
For many representatives of the stronger sex, a female orgasm is confirmation that he himself is a good lover. However, the sexologist does not see a direct connection between these phenomena. At the same time, men with already low self-esteem can throw a real scandal.
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The woman herself suffers
According to Irina, the woman herself suffers from imitation. “Firstly, in this case she has to endure sexual intercourse, and secondly, with such sex the brain receives a signal – 'why have sex at all?' – says our expert. Irina is sure that after an established negative reaction it will be very difficult to restore the desire to have sex again.
What a sexologist recommends
In any case, the expert advises never to imitate and solve the problem of lack of orgasm by communication with your partner, learn to disconnect from work and immerse yourself in the process, as well as study your body, look for erogenous zones and be sure to inform your partner about them in the process.